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8 Things I Found Out After Dating The Perfect Dutch Woman

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I can tell you from experience that it can be difficult to date someone from another country. Culture, customs, and behaviors may be drastically different. Despite that, you should view it as an excellent opportunity to learn about a new culture intimately.

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Traveling to Holland can put you face-to-face with some of the most amazing women in the world. They are straight to the point and very self-confident. What I mean by ‘straight to the point’ is actually brutal honesty. They know what they want, and they know exactly how to get it.

Don’t be scared off just yet; there are a lot of amazing traits that Dutch women possess.

She’s Sincere, Brutally

Dutch women are very open and direct at the same time. You might interpret this as rudeness, but just understand that it’s part of their culture. They are very straight forward and don’t like to beat around the bush. Just remember not to feel insulted, they aren’t trying to be mean, they just don’t want to waste any of their precious time.

They will tell you directly if they want to go out with you or not. Also, if they have an opinion about you, they won’t hesitate to let you know. It would be best if you did the same thing, so be open and honest with them.

She Likes To Dress Casually

If she shows up to a date in a sweater and a pair of raggedy sneakers, don’t storm out. It’s not that she’s trying to disrespect you or put in a low effort. It’s just that Dutch women like to dress casually and value comfort over looks.

It would help if you accepted that she would feel best in a pair of jeans and a cardigan. Unless it’s an exceptional event, she typically won’t go through the effort of getting all dressed up. Remember that it goes both ways, so you don’t have to get dressed up either. Throw on your most comfortable shoes and jacket, and you’ll be in similar company.

She’s a Natural Feminist

Dutch women are feminists by nature, but this certainly isn’t a con. You shouldn’t see them as a helpless woman who is looking for her prince charming. I advise you not to perceive any woman this way, but Dutch women are exceptional.

You can easily go to a pub or local bar, order a few beers and crack a lot of jokes. They are down to earth and enjoy men who are too. Don’t try to act like a big shot or show off any material things. They aren’t interested, but what they are interested in is a genuinely kind guy.

‘Going Dutch’

Don’t even think about trying to buy them everything. Anywhere you go they will want to split the bill with you unless it’s something insignificant. Even then, they will pay you back one way or another.

It’s not about pride; they are very independent and want to make their way in the world. Even though it’s nice to split the bill, many guys will take it personally. As though she doesn’t want your money. So relax, and be happy that she wants to take equal responsibility in paying for your dates.

She Can Be Aggressive

Often, Dutch women can be hot-blooded. As you now know, they aren’t shy. So if they get upset, prepare for a grilling. They won’t hesitate to put you in your place.

Since they are very independent, they are also dominant in relationships. They know they are equal and have an equal say in the relationship. Don’t be intimidated by this, but learn to cope and communicate. In the end, you may need to just deal with it, but will you be able to?

She’s Ambitious

Dutch women are also known for being very driven, which may be a side effect of their keen sense of independence. They are goal oriented and don’t like the idea of being a stay at home mom. This doesn’t mean that they don’t want a family, but they want to have their career first.

For example, in the Netherlands, every week there is a day known as “papadag.” On this day, men get one day every single week to spend time with their children. It’s not all fun and games though. Men expected to be able to take care of the daily chores, cook, and entertain their kids.

The point is that men get to experience what a stay-at-home mom experiences. So he can give her some time off and also take part in raising the kids.

She Loves Home Cooking

If you want to improve your chances with any girl, then you need to learn how to cook, like right now. This will help you greatly win over a Dutch girl’s heart. She loves sweets, and if you bake, you will be a gem in her eyes.


If you can’t bake, then jump on your bike and ride directly to the supermarket. Once there, find and buy her hagelslag. These are little chocolate sprinkles that all Dutch people love to put on their bread. If you give her a steady supply of hagelslag, she’ll probably won’t stop loving you.

Don’t Forget the Muisjes

Before I end this article, there’s one last thing you need to know. If you end up marrying a Dutch girl, don’t forget to get muisjes. These are bread toppings made with sugar-coated Anise seeds. It’s customary in the Netherlands to have this topping after a child’s birth.

Find Your Girl

The most important thing to remember about Dutch women is to be genuine. Don’t fake anything or act more important than you really are. These women aren’t afraid to speak their mind and want to be equal with you. So if you aren’t scared off by now, then that means you’re shopping for your plane ticket already.

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