She has a boyfriend but I think she likes me, what do you do?
Love is sweet, and it’s even sweeter when two people feel the same way about each other. Controlling whom we develop feelings for is often beyond our control. After all, it’s a matter of the heart.
So what do you do if you start to develop feelings for a girl who has a boyfriend? The first thing you want to figure out is if she reciprocates the feeling.
Don’t expect her to come to you and admit it. It would help if you also didn’t get too carried away with any of her actions. Many guys intentionally misread certain behaviors and fool themselves into thinking a girl feels the same way about you.
So how do you avoid misinterpreting the wrong signs? Well, we came up with a list of some behaviors you should look out for.
Disclaimer: we are not saying you should go around trying to steal women from their boyfriends. We are just informing you on how to tell if a girl in a relationship likes you. We don’t want to be held responsible for what might happen to you.
Before we jump into it, we’ll take a quick look at some things you need to pay attention to. Note, these are quite different from the signs she gives away through her body (body language).
- Body language
- Prolonged eye contact
- How she behaves around her boyfriend
Her Conversations With You
- Pay attention to her sense of humor
- Take note of the topics she talks to you about
- Pay close attention to what she says about her boyfriend
- How does she speak with you about her boyfriend?
- Her texts with you can tell you a lot
Feel it Out
Now you need to think about how you are going to approach this. Consider some of these points:
- What are your intentions?
- When and how will you flirt with her
- Will you let her know that you are interested?
- Know when it’s right to back off
When a girl is in a relationship, we tend to think that she must be in love. The truth is much more complicated than that. There are an infinite amount of reasons why people stay in a relationship even if there’s no love.
Some people stay because they are comfortable and scared to be on their own. However, if these women find a better option, then they will readily leave their guy for another.
The greatest ally in your quest to find out if she likes you is, the girl’s subconscious mind. People aren’t able to control their unconscious actions, so you need to notice them. So what do you need to look out for?
She Makes Jokes About Her Boyfriend
One easy way to tell is if a girl is in a bad relationship if she continually makes fun of her boyfriend. If she is always doing this around you, it could be that she doesn’t find her guy attractive anymore.
If it’s more mean spirited joking, it means that she’s starting to lose interest and is openly showing it. It would be best if you still took caution, because this isn’t the only sign you need to look out for.
She Never Mentions Him
Often when a girl is interested in someone, and they have a boyfriend, they don’t talk about him to you. If a girl isn’t interested in a guy or is in a good relationship, she’ll find any excuse to mention her guy.
You might not even know she has a boyfriend. So the news might come as a surprise. You could get this information through a mutual friend or randomly meet the guy one day.
This still doesn’t mean she’s in love with you. Sometimes women don’t like to randomly mention their boyfriends unless it’s relevant.
She’s Always Going Out
She would prefer to go out with you rather than her boyfriend. It’s not easy to tell if this is the case though. But, if she’s willing to go out with you and your friends often, it’s a good sign.
A girl who is in a healthy relationship will usually spend time exclusively with their boyfriends or bring him along. If he’s absent or she’s going out anytime you ask her out, then chances are the relationship is on the ropes.
She Contacts You First
Does she regularly call or text you for particular favors? Maybe she got a flat tire or needs help with something. Alternatively, if something positive happens in her life, like a new job, you’ll be one of the first to know.
This means that she wants to have an excuse to hang out with you. Her boyfriend could do any of these favors, but she chooses to call you. If she’s always contacting you first, it’s a powerful sign.
Always Happy To See You
Is she consistently excited and happy to see you? If so then there’s a good chance that you’ve left a strong impression on her. This is primarily a good sign if you don’t know her that well. Usually, people get excited to see their close friends or people they know well. If you get this reaction without being that close, it could mean that she wants to get to know you better.
Your Opinion Matters
We tend to want the opinion of people we value or hold in high esteem. The same scenario applies here. She will want to know what you think about her new car, shoes, and other things that she buys. The only reason for this is because she wants to know your taste or your lifestyle.
Try to notice any excessive or unnecessary touching. If a girl hugs you, it’s not something to read into extensively. If she is getting touchy with you, it could mean that she wants more of you.
Take note if she only touches you if her boyfriend isn’t around. She might become shy and reserved when he’s present but become physical when he’s not. She might give you long, tender hugs or always brush against your arm or leg.
Some girls are physical, so try to see if she is doing this only with you or to everyone else.
Becomes Distant From Her Boyfriend
If you’re hanging out with her, do you notice if she is ignoring her boyfriend? She might take a quick peek at her phone and then put it away. Alternatively, it will begin to ring, and she decides to ignore the call.
The time she’s spending with you is much more important to her than replying to her boyfriend. Even though it takes only a few moments, she would rather not waste time. This can also mean that the communication is starting to break down in her current relationship. Be aware that they might just be having a small argument, so don’t get too ahead of yourself.
She Brings You To An Important Event
For any critical event, the default is to bring your significant other. So what if a girl asks you to go instead of her boyfriend?
This can be a bit tricky. It can be that her boyfriend is out of town and she trusts you enough to invite you. Alternatively, she would instead ask you out to the event. This could mean that she doesn’t care about her boyfriend anymore and is acting recklessly.
She Starts To Become Attached To You
Is she starting to become attached to you and rely on you for emotional support? It means that she is becoming emotionally attached to you.
This could mean that she’s starting to open her heart to you. Alternatively, it could also mean that she trusts you as a close friend and your opinion matters to her. It all depends on the context of the conversation.
Does she talk about problems in her relationship and drop some apparent hints? Is it just about how sad she is about losing a pet? Paying attention to the context will point you in the right direction.
So What Should You Do?
So you’ve looked at all the signs and everything points to a green light. You’re positive that she’s ready to dump her boyfriend to you. So you should go for it, right?
No, you should stop and think about the whole situation. Who exactly is her boyfriend to you? Is he a personal friend, an acquaintance, or a total stranger? It doesn’t matter because you should consider if you want to be responsible for causing emotional distress to someone else.
So you’ve decided that you love this girl, and you don’t care about her guy, so anything else to consider? Yes, there is one essential consideration, which is a golden rule. The rule states, “If they’re willing to cheat with you, then they’re willing to cheat on you” so keep that in mind.
Our advice is to wait it out and see what happens. If her relationship is on the rocks, it might end, and then you’ll have a fair chance. Breakups are always really complicated, and if you jump into something right away, it might end badly for you and her.
So, consider everything before making this big decision.